Who You Are Matters More Than What You Do
Who are you?
Are you your profession?
Are you your talents, skills, or reputation?
Are you your social status or financial worth?
Or are you, deep down inside, something all together different?
Take a moment to reflect on these questions. What comes to mind?
Doing for Identity
Growing up in Southern California, and achieving academic success from an early age, I very quickly tied who I was to my accomplishments.
I would think: I am gifted, I am smart. I am the boy who aced that test, or finished that project well.
My 'doing' fortress of identity had its obvious flaws. If I failed to performance well, or failed to meet my expectations or the expectations of others, I would crash into self-hatred and depression.
The phrase "You are a failure, you are a disappointment" often did (and sometimes still does) ring in my head.
Making the Switch
The journey from a 'doing' identity to a 'being' was one of the greatest experiences of my life.
In 2010, while receiving counseling to treat 'performance Christianity burnout' among other issues, I finally had some deep 'A ha!' moments that left me in a state of being. I literally felt God speak to me 'Don't try, just be.'
Freedom! Trying could've been my life slogan to date but instead, through sheer grace, I was learning to be. It felt like a 1000 ton weight lifted off my shoulders.
Whispers of True Identity
The last seven years have been an incredible path of discovering my core identity through a lens of being and experiencing God.
I remember early on spending a lot of time just meandering in nature, listening to the soothing wind and gazing at the open sea. The first words of true identity were spoken to my heart in that season: 'Free, Alive, Strong.'
These words had nothing to do with my performance, and everything to do with my heart.
A Deeper Identity
In a world focused on the external and results, its easy to lose sight of an identity based on things inside that remain, regardless of our actions or life's circumstances.
So I ask you again, who are you really?
And what lies prevent you from living this identity?