Understanding Love

There is a desire within each of us,
in the deep center of ourselves
that we call our heart.
We were born with it,
it is never completely satisfied,
and it never dies.
We are often unaware of it,
but it is always awake.

It is the Human desire for Love.
Every person in this Earth yearns to love,
to be loved, to know love.
Our true identity, our reason for being
is to be found in this desire.
— Gerald May

Throughout your day, how often do you find yourself thinking of love?  

Whether you realize it or not, love is the underlying current of our choices, beliefs, habits, and experiences.

Sounds crazy, right?

Let's break down what love is, and maybe this will make sense.


What Love Is.

Based on my experience, I would define love as the invisible force that attaches us to people, animals, places, objects, ideas, etc.  

For example, how often do we say, I love that place, that food, that person, that experience, that _________?  Love binds us to the things that fulfill us in life.

The forces of love originate in all our desires, good or bad.  It is our longing to feel comforted, purposeful, happy, connected, alive.


The Struggle of Love.

By this time in your life, surely you have been hurt by love.  Maybe really bad.

When we love, we put ourselves at risk, because our attachment to someone or something is not always guaranteed.

When we lose our connection to something we love, we feel loss.

I would argue that loss is still a beautiful (if not incredibly difficult) aspect of love.

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a big part of love is letting go.  

I think back to my experience of love growing up, and I see a lot of holding on and controlling.  I would be overly devastated by loss, whether it was a desire not being fulfilled, or the breakup of a romantic relationship.

When we hold tight to the things we love, it can become an addicted form of love.  Holding on prevents us from experiencing all that love is, because an essential dimension of deep love is learning to appreciate the ebb and flow of our attachments.

This is why love is still the answer in a world of disappointments, broken relationships, and great suffering.

Love exists underneath the surface of it all, calling us to stop worshipping things going right, and instead inviting us to experience love as a space, where the good and bad of life can be felt.  

To feel, to desire, to hold on and let go, is to live, is to know Love.  

Where do you currently seek love?



Austin McRobbie